It would be a waste to find someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, only to lose the chance to be with them because of your lack of awareness or an inability He is an adult & his main focus should be on his relationship. Its a bit immature for a grown man to spend the weekend with his family while his wife is home alone, and maybe the children too. January 20, 2012, 8:21 am. If this has only been going on 3-6 weeks or so she might be just starting to feel the pinch, so it hasnt really come up before this. Yeah, money is always touchier than anything else. I Wish I Were Homeward Bound. January 20, 2012, 10:58 am. Did he see them a lot over the holidays or not see them much at all? You mention what you used to do when your were single. But if throughout dating you looked for all those little signs and clues that led you to believe that you are on the same page, I do not see the need for an official information session, or why it is wrong to assume that things will just continue as they are. This went on for two and a half years, and after that we moved in together. But she doesnt seem to mind it. When there is no holiday, they decide to have a BBQ in the backyard, and of course, they invite too many people to that event. June 18, 2014, 10:54 am. Doing that every week seriously compromises a relationship with a partner who is not ok with that set-up. Something like frequent arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings? Im not saying anyones wrong, either. Okay okay. Next time your boyfriend says we are going to my folks Saturday, sound good? Say this: Are we going spend every weekend at your parents from now on? Maybe explain to him that you would like to keep some variety in how you spend your free time with each other. He needs a lot of family time, you need a lot of just-the-two-of-you time. But he also has to understand thathis number one family is you when he gets married. Your You will know at that point whether or not it was a mistake to move in with him. Dear Ann Cannon So my only son and his wife have been married for almost four years. Im in the same boat. Those things how they want to spend their weekends, their philosophies about money are the kind of things you should know about someone BEFORE making the huge commitment of moving in together. A picnic in the park? All rights reserved. Shes not being selfish or mean, shes simply asking for him to place more importance on her & their relationship. And I dont think therapy will help the parents but it might be a good idea for the LW and her boyfriend. She kept trying to change it and regularly fights with him about it. So LW, if you dont like it, I think you should MOA. Some people rather deal with never knowing they cheated and live in the sand and keep up with the good life, then know about it and have to start over fresh. His parents tell him they gave him everything, and he neglected them when he married. GatorGirl If youve explained that to him and he doesnt care or doesnt have any interest in meeting your needs, theres not a ton you can do. Hopefully by the time you are an adult you have been given and shown the coping skills youll need to support Yourself. Hosting a BBQ is a great idea. So the last month theyve seen his family every weekend? I do care for his parents and they are nice people but at the same time I want a separate life with just me and my boyfriend. We hope you apply our tips and have many lovely weekends with your husband in the future. While there is nothing wrong with being close with your family, it becomes a problem when you prioritize your family of origin over your significant other. Its sad that we put our heads in the sand, but who wants to really start over, by themselves, when your husband or wife of however many years has been cheating on you. Sorry if someone else mentioned this and I didnt see, but it seems as though the boyfriend moved straight from his parents house to with her, right? and how you spend your weekend time (in this case), i think considering the length of the LWs relationship is something they may need to talk about. In a typical family dynamic there are common roles assumed by different individuals. Well, I guess that frame of mind is just not one Im personally willing to take. . im kind of confused. January 20, 2012, 11:41 am. allathian I absolutely love his family to death, but there are some boundary issues. bluesunday He considers you a party breaker because you dont want to sit all day every weekend with his family and listen to the same stories. January 20, 2012, 11:26 am. I am not asking you to minimize your concerns by any means, again just to caution you about being perceived as making this a me or your family conversation. If it doesnt work for you LW, then this might be a dealbreaker. Also, let him know that the paying for tickets to the suburbs is expensive for you, so ask if he would be willing to limit the number of times that you go to visit his parents (say once a month). He even startedtalking badly about your family, and you feel he wants to distance you from them. It also gets you out of the house so that, when his parents drop by, too bad, you arent there. I see people post or check in or what ever and I have no idea what it means. There are no steadfast rules when it comes to spending time with extended family. If it is that then work out a way so you can spend most nights together whether at yours or theirs. Exactly! January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. Yeah, although all for non-pandemic times. Come on, BGM! Stop getting angry over small unrelated things and tell him what is really bothering you. Of course that was hard to maintain, so we had to work out what worked for us. Its sad cause I know for a fact this is a losing battle. In short, you havent had time to even get to the point where your differences might start to come to lightand then become dealbreakers. ele4phant Addie Pray At best, you will an appendage to his family. Why does she feel obligated to visit his parents so often? ForeverYoung And next weekend. If he did this every single night, though, I would not be so supportive, to say the least. If that doesnt work if he wont set aside some time for the two of you, or if you need more distance from his family than hes willing or able to manage, then Im afraid its MOA time. lets_be_honest Clearly the guy likes to spend time with his family, and might have different views on social life than you. But are they really guilting the boyfriend? No, not necessarily. They go to see one of their families every weekend or see both some weekends, and its something they both agree on. He has 3 sons two who are 26 (act like Like the people who say they wouldnt want to know a significant other was cheating on them. Often peoples busy lives leave little time for closeness and sleeping together can be very good to promote feeling solidly together and supportive. I realize going every weekend to his parents house is a little extreme, but remember too that its not just you anymore. if the LWs learn this, we will have to find another source of entertainment, findingtheearth Not to say that this stuff goes away altogether, just that it can decrease in frequency, sometimes dramatically. But I wouldnt go as far to say he is emotionally dependent and his family is dysfunctional. Your right, most of these things you shouldnt have to sit down and discuss like a business meeting because by the time you move in together you should already know most of this stuff about them!! GatorGirl ReginaRey This is especially important ifhis parents dont respect boundaries. I never feel like Im the priority and always in the backseat:(. They arent her parents. Dysfunctional that he wants to spend time (a lot, Ill give you that) with his family? On the weekends he spends at Too much info missing. In fact, this couple isnt married, so they arent even her in-laws. January 4, 2021, 3:30 am. The BF is emotionally (and physically) unavailable and I dont know that it will change without some sort of drastic action from the LW. At the same time, I know Ive put off talking about finances WAY longer than three weeks before (yeah, yeah, I know, bad), so that doesnt seem like a huge problem to me either. I am pretty sure that is not what you meant by your letter, but as we all know, when we are discussing something with significant others, things can sound more severe than they are. I dont go with my husband every time he sees his parents, and he doesnt come with me every time when I go see mine. Your husband loves to drink it with his dad while discussing sports. and second, maybe have a date night once a weekend or something like that, where you dont have the stress of work/school to think about for the next day. i think you are more direct than a lot of people and maybe more communicative. We are just those types of people though, which is why I said originally to the LW that this is usually just a fundamental part of people and not something you can really change that much. That is not the way that I would ever want it to be. Your bf dated you before so you know he is capable of doing it again. He values his family and wants to spend his free time with them (and you). The little things like who is taking the garbage out? husband goes to his parents every weekend. At the end of the day though like Wendy said, the situation itself isnt going to change, so either find ways to deal with it, or leave. His family is about a 3 hour drive away from us while mine No, spending 1 or 2 weekends with the parents or your boyfriends isnt that many, but it is, if you dont get to see your boyfriend at all in between these times. It sounds codependent to me. I would say I prefer half my weekends to either be spent relaxing at home or sitting on a beach. you still have some kinks to work out and a lot to learn about eachother! . LW I would advise you not to make it seem like you are asking your boyfriend to choose either you or his family. Our favorite free activity is to find new parks/trails in our area and spend the afternoon on them. Er, the mom will find a reason drop by the LWs place. That would be great if your husband didnt spend every weekend with his family instead of you. Not only has this been an incredibly short relationship, but no where in this letter does she say that she has even mentioned to her boyfriend that this is an issue. January 20, 2012, 9:16 am, LW I would sit down and talk with your BF. He will want to know why and you will answer that you have explained before that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. January 4, 2021, 3:09 am. That was seven years ago. You are still in the early days of this relationship so make sure you are upfront with your expectations. Agreed, there is too much time spent sitting on the couch in this letter. Spend most of their spare time with Mom, and significant others take a backseat. Maybe Im the weird one who, even if I leave work early, never seems to get home until wayyyy late. June 18, 2014, 10:26 am. Explain to him that you value your time together just the two of you and make some suggestion as to how you could spend that time. Like hey I can afford around this much, SO says I can afford a little more, so how about I pay a little more of the rent every month so we can get a nicer place? Or pick berries. Have you tried just not going? Your boyfriend is spending every weekend at his parents house because you are enabling that to happen. As your history with him has shown, he likes spending his weekends with you. If you spent every weekend together in the city before you lived together, it would seem that thats something he enjoys doing. I just truly think this stuff is common sense, which is why it is so baffling to me. Then, he needs to ask her, calmly and without accusation, why she prefers to spend her weekends with her Maybe if you stop going every single time hell decide to stay home with you every now and then. Laura Hope Its hard not knowing when a passing will Laura Hope Finally my sister was like, every time you think you jokingly say please move back home, I feel like crap. As was said before, while you are dating you should be attempting to find out as much info as possible. You can be with his family every weekend and every holiday, but he can never be with yours. GatorGirl Stop going to the burbs with him all the time. Perhaps if something was planned, hed break his routine, and realize that it is fun sometimes to stay in the city. bittergaymark I asked him all the time if 1. we could have weekends where we spent more time just with each other and 2. maybe even have one every once in awhile where he didnt see his parents, that was just us my argument being that I never got a weekend to relax at home and have him come to mei was always either driving to him or driving an hour out to his parents for the weekend and spending the night and all that. Thats what I wondered why does she have to go with every weekend? LW you seem a lot more independant than you BF, and I feel like this is just the begining of you feeling like this, so if you havent yet just have a plan to move out if things arent working out. I think the commenters who speak of the bf feeling settled and not having to date any more are correct. Youre right, LW, this is dysfunctional. So if you feel your husband growing distant, and you realize he hasnt said I love you in a long time, it could be because hes wrestling with feeling like he doesnt want you around. In other words, its a big sign he doesnt want to spend time with you. Heres a look at the 5 big stages successful relationships have to go through. but you have to talk to him about it. If this has only been happening for three weeks, I dont really think you have a reason to worry. and cant get out much, so Drew has dinner with him every week. January 20, 2012, 9:33 am. January 20, 2012, 8:52 pm. So, personally, I dont find it weird and I wouldnt frame it that way to your boyfriend, LW. They live in a suburb of New York, where we live, and weve somehow gotten into a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. After a year and a half of this, I asked my ex if we could have a parent-free Sunday, just us. Will you LWs simply never learn? Because we spent that time communicating (and other stuff, but you dont need to know) it worked perfectly for us. So dont wait around for that. I just dont understand this concept. January 20, 2012, 9:37 am. He and I are obviously not together anymore and I bet his new squeeze doesnt mind. I think that would be more telling than the sit at home or hang with parents scenario. You might even consider scheduling family holidays to spend time with your husbands family, so that you can strengthen your bonds with your husbands family while also strengthening your bond with him. Alternatively, you can figure out what specific times are appropriate for him to spend with his parents. You and your husband wanting to live in different placesis probably a usual cause of arguments in your marriage. Just set a boundary that you wont spend more than so-and-so-many hours there and get ready to leave when you want to. Maybe he doesnt understand this because YOU SPEND EVERY WEEKEND WITH HIS PARENTS. You want to avoid jumping to conclusions and coming off as the bad guy. To me, it is not strange at all to spend some time every weekend with your family. WebHusband spends all his free time with his adult chilrdren. June 18, 2014, 12:47 pm. i tried to be supportive when they broke up but i wanted to throw a party. Wendy has said she works 2 weeks or so in the future, which means she likely got this letter about two weeks ago which was right after a bunch of holidays! Years later, theyve never recovered. Even if it isnt a matter of cutting apron strings or anything, some people just enjoy spending more time with their families than others. I like to relax at home. Youve already talked to your boyfriend about your feelings and he doesnt think hes doing anything weird. The thing is, whether or not his behavior is weird is irrelevant. Plus his parents never made him feel like thats what he had to be doing. January 20, 2012, 9:34 am. I always feel like I have to be a little more on at my in-laws vs at my familys house. Maybe this difference will be easily resolved, and youll be together forever! I get that many dont, but I dont think thats dysfunctional. Honestly, if she came back here and said she suggests things to do, or frames her conversations with boyfriend differently, I would have a different response. GatorGirl I would probably always choose vegging at my parents house over mine, or even my boyfriends. My bf is exactly the same and we have a kid he sleeps there tho and we have been together for four year i am at the end of the line now i cant deal with it no more rather than spend the nigt at home with me and his son his mam and dad showrd up and said av come to take u and he had the cheek to ask me as he was already out of the door u alright er no am not alright but get on with it, They are ruinin our relationship we just lost a baby in septemeber and things are just bad i feel lile he doesnt want to be here and doesnt love me cos if he did he wudnt want to be up there he spends 5 out of the 7 days up the in the last two month we have lived together for four years. You say you cant get your boyfriend to understand that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. lets_be_honest I support this and even though it isnt practical for me to take the baby all the way to the other side of the city every time he goes (an hour and a half subway commute round-trip), I have no problem spending an evening by myself with Jackson so Drew can get in some time with his dad. I completely agree with Angelique in that this family dynamic is dysfunctional. January 20, 2012, 9:38 am. All rights reserved. But it seems like they want to take things slowly. You dont need to spend every weekend or every day with your boyfriend. Maybe he feels that since he sees the gf all week now, he should spend weekends with his family. Im nearly at my wits end because its causing me to get upset with him over fairly trivial things. It doesnt mean he loves her any less. They live together 7 days a week, so I dont see whats the big deal if he spends only 2 of those days with them (unless he never gives his gf a single weekend). BGM never agrees with the woman. I think I need more info. Not because hes wrong, or youre wrong, but because your lifestyles just dont fit together well. Its like of course your boyfriend told you he wasnt cheating on you he wanted to continue to bang you and get all the other benefits of the relationship. I know how he feels about adoption because he shared his feelings on it during a discussion I started simply saying someday Id love to adopt and really hope it will happen. Just over coffee, no contracts or anything. Besides, the whole point of living in NYC is so you dont have to rely on Metro North to get int to the city on the weekends amirite!? GatorGirl June 18, 2014, 10:17 am. Ooo, I might try that out this summer, that looks fun! By the time January 3, 2021, 2:57 pm. If the relatives of only one spouse are prioritized, the other spouse will be dissatisfied. Say, what if I only come to your parents one weekend a month, and you only go 2-3? That way you get some weekend time alone with him and you only go over there once a month. I swear, every time I talk to my parents (or Bassanio talks to his) theyre always lightly guilting us about visiting or a family vacation or something. What I am saying is when you are dating, you establish certain guidelines. So its not like every.single.weekend. What matters is how his behavior and how his lifestyle make you feel. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting him to spend more time with her. All Im saying is be careful. To me it would be so weird if I came home and was a short drive from my parents, but just sat around my own house vs going there and socializing and seeing my family. which reminds me of my friends who was cheated on i was telling you about yesterday. Who knows, he might even find a girlfriend whod be willing to move in with his parents, and then hed never have to make a choice about who to spend more time with. WebHere are potential reasons why your husband goes out every weekend without you. Maybe the new place would start to feel more like home. I would totally be cool with buying a compound and having my family and Peters family live on it in harmony with us. Either that or another kind of quiet crisis or else the holidays . tbrucemom And I did my bit in the thumbs war on your side! But know that you arent over reacting what you are feeling is completely normal. In this situation, with a fairly long commute, this guy is devoting if not the entire weekend to seeing his parents, then at least a huge chunk of it. Its when a relationship switches from the wooing phase to the were together phase. I think its also different when it isnt your family. Really? January 20, 2012, 9:32 am, Actually, Im with you on the finance thing. December 6, 2022, 12:17 pm. That said, I think the LW should just talk to her boyfriend. January 20, 2012, 9:36 am. If he chooses visiting his parents because the alternative is sitting at home, plan some fun things for you two to do together that will be too good for him to pass up. Like he was programmed that way. So make him choose. June 18, 2014, 11:03 am. He knows this because its important to me so I talk about it. Or maybe its the first major difference in opinion in a long line of future differences. I understand the problem with not seeing him enough, but I think shes shooting herself in the foot by going with him all the time since that way shes communicating that shell go along with whatever his plans are. I would plan some things. GatorGirl Lets find out why he behaves like that and offer tips on what you should do. January 4, 2021, 3:35 am. The adult children are taught to never make a decision without consulting the parents or family. Hes going to do what hes going to do and if in four years he hasnt changed, then he probably wont, Your only choice is to accept it or move on. June 18, 2014, 9:59 am, Haha, I think this is quite extreme. If money is tight, you dont even have to plan expensive excursions. Anyway, LW, I think that first of all, youre a little premature in worrying about this to the point of writing to DWjust talk to your bf about it. January 20, 2012, 10:52 am. Different strokes for different folks. Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. My husband works 60 hours a week 5-6 days a week, until around 9 every night. January 20, 2012, 10:09 am. If she is like lets do XYZ and he says no, lets sit at momsyeah thats a little off. silver_dragon_girl January 20, 2012, 9:54 am. This is typically how this dynamic functions. Yeah, I agree you should really talk to him about it. Maybe he is making up time for that. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. This boyfriend seems like one of those people whose default is go home. I bet when he lived at home he barely left the house. Ill add that another strategy you could try if those mentioned dont work is to simply spend less time at his parents house yourself. Why My Husband Thinks Taking Care of the Baby is Easy: 3 Reasons. But, youre not single now. Next time he says to go to his parents for the w/end, tell hime youd rather do x or y. artsygirl June 18, 2014, 10:08 am. I would not enjoy feeling like I couldnt just be at home some weekends. It is not wrong to Want to spend time with loved ones, but as an adult you ought to be fair and accommodating of your partner and potential kids. November 29, 2019, 5:49 pm, Angelique But come on, man! One of my good friends goes to see her in-laws (or the come see her) every weekend, and they live about an hour away. Hes going to choose you. Haha. He has a scenario in his head of how they feel hurt, and thats why he has to see them every weekend. She does say they sleep there on weekend nights, so that would indicate that its longer than just a leisurely lunch. January 20, 2012, 3:04 pm. Its entirely possible that the boyfriend is happy with the status quo, and if spending more time with his girlfriend means spending less time with his parents, hell choose the parents over the girlfriend. Much of the advice seems to center around just talking to the boyfriend about the problem and even asking why the LW wrote to Wendy after only 3 weeks of a problem, without talking to bf. At first I thought it was sweet that he spent so much time with his folks (my mom died when I was 7 and my dads parental rights were terminated by the state, so I had no idea how families worked). lets_be_honest Or stay the whole time? ForeverYoung But Im talking about my family. artsygirl Not normal. or just dinner? January 20, 2012, 5:36 pm. SpaceySteph Lindsay Its even understandable to spend every weekend with them if someone is terminally ill (or some other similarly serious circumstance). Isnt that the point of waiting to move in with someone? If the LW has just been going every weekend without their being discussion, then that has to stop now. We have a great relationship and I dont want this issue to grow into such a large issue that I cant handle it anymore one day. Listen and dont judge when he tells you why he likes going to his parents and respect his opinion on that. Unfortunately, men dont seem to pick up that way. Hes probably simply not used to her stating her own desires and needs if she always goes along with him. But moving in together may also make you slack on spending time with your own friends and hobbies. There is so, so much you can do with your boyfriend LW! If your hubby is young and just recently married he may also be feeling insecure and needing his bros to lean on. allathian The rest of the time he spent with me. Once upon a time when you were little, mom and dad did know more than youbut entering adulthood is when you yourself should be acquiring knowledge just as your parents did. Im not sure how much leverage she has with the parents. Pay careful attention to his reaction. Communication is always the basis of solving any problem. Our compromise (when we lived closer, now we live about 6 hours away) was that we would see my family for dinner once a month and that I could go over other times but that he preferred to stay home. No one said they cant, just that they like to see each other on weekends. GatorGirl To use my own example, my mom lives alone, she is not the most sociable person, so I go and see her for a couple of hours almost every weekend, while my BF does his own thing, whatever that may be. 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